How long that would be!!! If you don't want to read, that's OK, and I promise I am not a basket case!
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Hi Katie! I know how you are feeling and I hope that my experiences (regarding your 3 fears) might make you feel a little better:
1) I went back to work full-time when both my girls were 12 weeks old. They both went to GREAT in-home daycares until they were around 2 1/2 and then I put them in a WONDERFUL pre-school. When I went back to work after having Emma, I too was afraid that she would not know I was her Mom.....but A CHILD KNOWS THEIR MOTHER, even when you are not the only care-taker every day!! It is hard to see that when they are so little, but as they get bigger, it will become crystal clear. I feel as bonded with my girls as any mom possibly could, so don't worry...Anne WILL know who her mom is!!! 2) How do you know, even if you are a stay-at-home mom, that you are truly seeing their "firsts"? No parent is with their child 24/7 and you could miss a "first" if you get a babysitter to go to dinner or walk out of the room for a few minutes. For me, the first step and first word were such gradual progressions that I couldn't really even pinpoint an exact "first". Definitely don't beat yourself up over the "firsts". 3) Having my child receive breast milk was important to me too (and I practically killed myself pumping to death)....BUT it was my pediatrician that reminded me that there are millions of brilliant people (brain surgeons, astronauts, scholars, etc.) that have grown up on formula and should your child have to drink formula....it really isn't the worst thing in the world.
So coming from a working mom that has felt all the same fears you are feeling now...it will all work out! And your husband is right - each family has to decide what is best for them at that moment and if that means changing things up along the way, that is OK. Hang in there!!
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Hi Katie!
I know how you are feeling and I hope that my experiences (regarding your 3 fears) might make you feel a little better:
1) I went back to work full-time when both my girls were 12 weeks old. They both went to GREAT in-home daycares until they were around 2 1/2 and then I put them in a WONDERFUL pre-school. When I went back to work after having Emma, I too was afraid that she would not know I was her Mom.....but A CHILD KNOWS THEIR MOTHER, even when you are not the only care-taker every day!! It is hard to see that when they are so little, but as they get bigger, it will become crystal clear. I feel as bonded with my girls as any mom possibly could, so don't worry...Anne WILL know who her mom is!!!
2) How do you know, even if you are a stay-at-home mom, that you are truly seeing their "firsts"? No parent is with their child 24/7 and you could miss a "first" if you get a babysitter to go to dinner or walk out of the room for a few minutes. For me, the first step and first word were such gradual progressions that I couldn't really even pinpoint an exact "first". Definitely don't beat yourself up over the "firsts".
3) Having my child receive breast milk was important to me too (and I practically killed myself pumping to death)....BUT it was my pediatrician that reminded me that there are millions of brilliant people (brain surgeons, astronauts, scholars, etc.) that have grown up on formula and should your child have to drink formula....it really isn't the worst thing in the world.
So coming from a working mom that has felt all the same fears you are feeling now...it will all work out! And your husband is right - each family has to decide what is best for them at that moment and if that means changing things up along the way, that is OK. Hang in there!!
And sorry my comment is so long too! :o)
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